People around you will say “He has become a difficult person to talk to”.
They will say “He has become a different person after he has become Rich”.
“He has achieved this big empire by luck”.
“He has no sufferings“.
“He has no relation to poor people now”.
“He has nothing to do with social welfare”.
“He don’t hang out among us now, because he is selfish now.”
And the list is really really more long.
But, the reality is way too different which they remain unaware of.
Let me try to explore the reality now.
You became a different person before you became Rich. Because you changed yourself. People just noticed it late.
They were unaware of the grinding of you before you become rich, same as people don’t care about the process – a tree sapling undergoes before turning into a tree – full of fruits and green leaves.
People want predictable behavior from other people. If anyone around them grows too fast, It makes them Guilty of not growing themselves.
You would never succeed if you are having negative emotions for Someone’s Success.
If you aren’t looking for something, you might end up loosing that valuable thing even when it’s right in front of you.
You will see the colours that you want to see. For example, looking upto a rainbow without having a purpose , it’s of no use. But if you have to count the number of different colours a rainbow is showing, then you would end up finding them.
Do not let anyone tell you that you are not enough to succeed. Success doesn’t come by Luck.
Dare to tell them that you refused your LIZARD BRAIN to remain stable.
Tell them ,Before becoming successful, you dared to not afraid of Change and Growth.
Tell them, You were making yourself uncomfortable for years , to be comfortable on which their eyes are stuck now.
You are successful because you have provided value.
Successful people are those simply of successful habits.
I can repeat here,
“Successful people are not gifted. They just worked/working/will work hard and then succeed on purpose”.
Thoughtful research and conviction are the root of confidence.
When you know you have a better way of doing things, you can overcome all naysayers.
Stay true to what you believe in — it works.
Respond to dissenters with confidence. Others will get on board, and you’ll find the path to success.
The next time you’re triggered to respond, take a moment to consider a different opinion rather than immediately dismiss it.
A discouraging word could augment your thought process. Be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to anger.
“At age 20, we worry about what others think of us.
At age 40, we don’t care what they think of us.
At age 60, we discover they haven’t been thinking of us at all.”
“Haters” often communicate out of love or a cry for help. Hurt people hurt people. When we tear others down, we reveal more of our true character than theirs.
An attack on others only exposes our thought process, insecurities, suppressed emotions, and how we judge people.
If feedback has any merit — regardless of whether you consider it constructive — be humble and openly consider it with gratitude and love.
If the criticism is a harsh, open attack, don’t respond with another grenade.
It baffles me when I see two keyboard warriors attacking one another online.
Tempers flare, egos are damaged, and no one is inspired to grow.
Take the opportunity to check in with yourself.
Some of us are cursed with a natural desire to please everyone with our personal and professional choices.
I’ve realized an important lesson:
No matter what you do, people will always criticize your actions when you try to achieve success.
The quicker you can embrace that, the better you’ll be.
When you do big things, you’ll always have haters and naysayers.
Knowing that is inevitable.
So ask yourself, “How can I use haters to support my mission even more?”
First, understand that what we feed grows, and what we starve dies. Don’t react to your haters — it only feeds them.
Second, realize their words are more about something unresolved within them than you. There’s a saying in psychology, “If you spot it, you got it.”
Third, be grateful. Hate, love, critique and praise are all acknowledgment. You’re no longer ignored or unseen; you’ve made it to the spotlight where the magic happens.
Are you getting hate even though you’re doing good work?
Good job, you’ve made it to the next level.
If everyone is happy with what you do, you probably aren’t stretching yourself enough, making bold decisions, or placing the big bets required to excel and reach new levels of excellence.
Embrace the criticism.
Uncomfortable moments are usually a sign that you’re on the right track.
The next time someone criticizes your choices, ask yourself if you’re being true to your personal mission and values.
If the answer is yes, smile and know that you’re doing the right thing!
Worrying or retaliating against your haters makes you bitter. It’s easy to be resentful and feel justified — but don’t.
Instead, make a list of the haters you don’t like.
Wish each one well by name, and practice sincerely forgiving them.
Speak kindly about them to others. Go out of your way to help them.
In time, this breaks down many barriers.
Even if it doesn’t, the effect on you will be resounding.
While some people become jealous of your success and wish you ill will, others will look to you as an inspiration.
Never let haters bring you down. Be a shining light and live large so others can see it’s possible.
What someone says reflects how they feel.
If someone offends me (which is hard), my first response is to ask myself,
“What’s this person going through?
Why do they need to say something like that to feel better?”
Then get over it.
Check out this post to know how small changes lead to bigger impact?
The second you take negative comments personally, you’re losing.
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That week learning is going to be my guide forever in my life.
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